They're talking about you...
And they're talking about me.
And not all of it is nice.
And there's no way to know what those people said.
Even when you think you know.
Now, I try to be a pleasant person. When I talk about other people, I always look for characteristics that are admirable, and mention those awesome points whenever I can. So I hope that when others talk about me out of my earshot, they do the same.
But I'm not stupid.
Mean things are going to be said about me.
Things that may be true, and maybe not.
But I'll never know.
Please Don't Tell Me
Remember the old game "Telephone" we used to play as kids? One person would say something, who would in turn try to say the same thing. Somewhere along the line (either on purpose or by accident) the original saying would invariably change.
If you tell me what someone was saying about me, that just brings the gossip full circle. Whatever that person said is now pulled completely out of context. Maybe the words were accurate, but I have no way of knowing what the intent, circumstance, or surrounding comments were. So I don't really know WHAT was said, right?
So, please, just don't tell me.
Unless it's something I supposedly said about you.
Then just ask.
I'll tell you as honestly as I can what I said and why.
Did Ya Hear about me?
If you heard something negative about me, I invite you to withhold judgement until you've gotten to know me. I may confirm what you heard. But I might not. Let's find out.
If our personalities clash, we can respectfully part ways.
No hard feelings.
Just agree to disagree.
But be warned! I'm going to find some quality I admire in you.
And I'll probably mention it.
I write about, with, for, and around kids all day. (Well, maybe I do the dishes too. Sometimes.)